Family Law around the world needs serious reform. Many are not aware today that fathers have few rights in today’s society.
While in the past it was taboo to have one parent in a family, today it almost seems encouraged. With financial incentives, some in society are willing to sleep around, get pregnant, cast the father out of the child’s life in any way possible, but keeping him close enough so he has to pay financial support. It’s a scam and often the vindictive ex is then free to ride off into the sunset with a measure of financial support and children to keep her company. While this sort of immorality is not committed by most, there are enough father’s out there today going through nasty custody disputes promulgate by a vindictive ex, the result is an alarming suicide rate among alienated fathers.
A vindictive ex can arise from a number of situations. It could also be that the father originally committing adultery leaving the woman extremely hurt. In seeking revenge, the ex then decides to not only divorce her husband, but then take it too far and deny the dad access to his own children. Today’s family court system is setup to allow this abuse to happen. While some men couldn’t care less about their kids, this is devastating on men who love their children and this can ultimately lead to suicide. Whatever the reason that a woman leaves her partner, alienating her kids from their father is wrong. It is an evil thing to deny a Father access to his own children, just as evil in fact as denying the mother access to her children.
Of course there are certain cases where a parent is a real danger to their children, but I am not obviously talking about those rare instances. By and large society today has little appreciation and regard for fatherhood. Family courts the world over are stacked against these fathers. Courts can aid in this alienation with their stance of being considered guilty unless proven innocent which can cost the father tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars. Many fathers just can’t afford a good defence and have to admit defeat and try and carry on with life without their kids. But even wealthy fathers can be bled dry of their money in defending themselves and then the courts use that against them saying they do nto have the means to look after their kids.
While thankfully I personally haven’t experienced anything like this, God seems to have put this injustice on my heart in the last year or so. I pray that there will be some real changes in the family courts around the world. I pray in Jesus name that fatherhood will get the honour and respect it deserves. I pray that father’s will be allowed access to their own kids in cases where a vindictive ex is trying to alienate the father. I pray that the system will stop allowing greedy women to treat men like checkbooks and to get away with perjury.
Fatherhood is important. God is a father and he has children. I believe that those who deny fathers access to their own kids, are in danger of serious judgement. The god of this age hates the one true God and hates fatherhood because God is a father. It is also important for all involved, the husband, wife, and children that fairness and justice is served if a family is going to break up. Treating the father as a money reserve with access to his kids is abuse. Men have feelings and they are just as capable as loving their children as their mom. Although I would say that a woman who alienates he ex from his kids for personal gain does not really love her children that much. Kids need their dads and statistically kids who have no father are more inclined to find themselves on the bad side of the law. Watch this video.
In the following posts, I will will cite real stories of fathers who are victims of this inadequate system. Some of these stories are very sad and include suicide. So be warned. But I hope you too can care for those going through this and pray for these people. They really need all the help and support they can get.
