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Every situation in an abusive marriage has different circumstances.
Some may justify divorce and some may not.
I think that alcoholism ranks right up there with infidelity as a good reason, if the alcoholic
refuses to change or is dangerous to the rest of the family.
I wish my mother had divorced my step father long before he died.She remarried hoping to give my two brothers and I a “daddy”
He was an abusive drunk. Every night he would come home and scream at all of us and throw and break things. He once threw the television at my mother and it cut off her toe.
We were young and did not know what to do.We were kicked out of three houses because he would break down doors and destroy things in the rentals we lived in.
My mother always thought that she protected us from him but even if he did not hit us we always thought that he was going to and it was just as traumatic seeing our mother abused.
My younger brother started having seizures that were related to the fear and trauma of that man coming home drunk in the middle of the night.The only good thing the man ever did for us was dying from cirrhosis of the liver.
YES, sometimes divorce is justified.
Tim
Hi Tim,
I just wrote a fairly long post regarding my hellish childhood living with my alcoholic parents, but then I deleted it. The memories are just too hard to revisit. I feel for you and your brother. I understand and lived the fear. Sometimes it still haunts me.
Had my parents divorced that hell would have been over, but who knows about the hell that may have taken it's place? I just don't know. You know what I mean?
Anyway, it sure good to see you again. How is your house and are you guys weathering the storms?
Love,
MandyHello! Please pray for me, I went to the Foot Doctor today and I have Feet-Spurs, a broken foot, and nerve damage. He gave me two Steroid Shots in my heels, and I could have punched Him one it hurt so good.
Thank you
Mrs.Quote (TimothyVI @ June 13 2008,02:12) Every situation in an abusive marriage has different circumstances.
Some may justify divorce and some may not.
I think that alcoholism ranks right up there with infidelity as a good reason, if the alcoholic
refuses to change or is dangerous to the rest of the family.
I wish my mother had divorced my step father long before he died.She remarried hoping to give my two brothers and I a “daddy”
He was an abusive drunk. Every night he would come home and scream at all of us and throw and break things. He once threw the television at my mother and it cut off her toe.
We were young and did not know what to do.We were kicked out of three houses because he would break down doors and destroy things in the rentals we lived in.
My mother always thought that she protected us from him but even if he did not hit us we always thought that he was going to and it was just as traumatic seeing our mother abused.
My younger brother started having seizures that were related to the fear and trauma of that man coming home drunk in the middle of the night.The only good thing the man ever did for us was dying from cirrhosis of the liver.
YES, sometimes divorce is justified.
Tim
Lets try sitting on our Hands
Have you heard of such arrogance with a forces of iniquity?
Who may stand against anything that is consistently hidden from the eyes?
DID you know that bottle waters contain ingredients that addict the consumers?
Many alcohols have additive ingredients that are way more powerful over the capacity level to endure the width withdrawal time.
Without these extra forces the Natural strength of a man would stand a much greater chance of overcoming, with just the emotion of grief for actions.Allergic reactions to various substances cause chemical un balances?
Therefore if one wishes to have a wines etc they should be made well aware of the ingredients…MSG…..has another code that most would not even know.Tim I hope you have the best of the second part of Life.
Nill PER MOUTH IS THE BEST FOR ALL.
charity
Quote (seek and you will find @ June 13 2008,08:19) Hello! Please pray for me, I went to the Foot Doctor today and I have Feet-Spurs, a broken foot, and nerve damage. He gave me two Steroid Shots in my heels, and I could have punched Him one it hurt so good.
Thank you
Mrs.
A broken foot? Oh, dear. Are you in a walking cast? Poor you! I will definitely pray for you today, Irene. Hang in there, it will heal (no pun intended)
Charity,
Are you and Stu related somehow?
heehee – like your new Avatar. You always change it up! Love your personalities!
Quote (Not3in1 @ June 13 2008,09:36) Charity, Are you and Stu related somehow?
heehee – like your new Avatar. You always change it up! Love your personalities!
No longer boxed into one track thinking.
I desire to understand, very willing to learn till the width heights and depth of all things.
acpersonalities! onlyoneavator @pun. choice of Nakedness
This Makes getting out Dangerous, exciting, misconstued, and without fear
the gift of corage to greet all.
acompanied by Natural discerning.Quote (Not3in1 @ June 13 2008,09:35) Quote (seek and you will find @ June 13 2008,08:19) Hello! Please pray for me, I went to the Foot Doctor today and I have Feet-Spurs, a broken foot, and nerve damage. He gave me two Steroid Shots in my heels, and I could have punched Him one it hurt so good.
Thank you
Mrs.
A broken foot? Oh, dear. Are you in a walking cast? Poor you! I will definitely pray for you today, Irene. Hang in there, it will heal (no pun intended)
Mandy! I am in a walking shoe. But the Heel spurs is more painful then the fracture. He gave me a shot in both Heels and I could have slapped His Face. It is suppose to feel better, but instead it feels worse. Figure that. I have to go back in 2 weeks. No more shots, I can tell you that much.
Thank you for praying for me.
Peace and Love Irene
P.S. How is everything going for you, will still pray for you and your Family.Please Brethren pray for me. I am really scared my Glucose level is over 200 and I have not bee able to get it down. It is because of the Shot of Cortisone that the Foot-Doctor gave me. Yes, I have called my Doctor and I have taken more Insulin and now have to keep an eye on it that it does not go up to 500.
I will have to stay up all night because sleep makes my level go up.
Peace and Love IreneIrene,
You'll have to stay up all night? Maybe try some stretching and large upper body arm movements to get the insulin moving faster? Maybe then you could take a nap at least? I'm really sorry to hear this is causing you so much trouble. Our bodies can be so fragile at times, huh?My prayers are with you tonight. If you cannot rest tonight, I hope you will have a very restful day tomorrow. Maybe watch some good old movies tonight.
Much love and prayers,
MandyQuote (Not3in1 @ June 13 2008,17:23) Irene,
You'll have to stay up all night? Maybe try some stretching and large upper body arm movements to get the insulin moving faster? Maybe then you could take a nap at least? I'm really sorry to hear this is causing you so much trouble. Our bodies can be so fragile at times, huh?My prayers are with you tonight. If you cannot rest tonight, I hope you will have a very restful day tomorrow. Maybe watch some good old movies tonight.
Much love and prayers,
Mandy
Mandy! Thank you for your prayers. I just checked my level, it went down to 131. Now the Doctor is worried that it will get to low, because I took so much Insulin. That's OK. tho I can eat then, I have not much to eat for Dinner and I am going to eat a good Breakfast and then go to Bed. I never thought that Diabitis could be so scarry. Going into a coma with it etc. I am so glad that you are around, (crying) I just don”t want to wake my Husband up, since we have to watch the Kids.
Love you much, you are such a loving person and I really appreciate you.
Love IreneWhen I was 21 I lived in Canada with a friend at his family home. His Dad was an alcoholic. I heard the stories his kids would tell me about their embarisment of having to step over his coma-ed out body in the kitchen when their friends came over. I saw the lengths of disception (and the constancy of it) he would go to to get a drink. I saw the erosion of the respect his family had in him, although they still loved him….gotta go, going out tonight.
Quote (Is 1:18 @ June 13 2008,19:27) When I was 21 I lived in Canada with a friend at his family home. His Dad was an alcoholic. I heard the stories his kids would tell me about their embarisment of having to step over his coma-ed out body in the kitchen when their friends came over. I saw the lengths of disception (and the constancy of it) he would go to to get a drink. I saw the erosion of the respect his family had in him, although they still loved him….gotta go, going out tonight.
Isaiah Where do you live. Going out tonight?
Mrs.Quote (Is 1:18 @ June 13 2008,19:27) I saw the lengths of disception (and the constancy of it) he would go to to get a drink. I saw the erosion of the respect his family had in him, although they still loved him….
As a wife of an alcoholic, this is the most devastating part. The lying and sneaking around. It always makes me wonder what else he is lying about? There's probably nothing, but when trust is broken it doesn't just break in one spot.Hey Nick, I wanted to thank you for encouraging Isaiah to give a testimony here. You know since I've been at HeavenNet, I've been privy to some personal lives of member's here through PM's and emails, and I dare say that most of us are here for more than just what the debate forums can give to us.
Anyway, thanks guys.
Much love,
MandyIrene,
How are you feeling today? Did you get to rest and are your levels back to normal? If you had to stay up all night – what did you do?
I remember one time when I stayed up all night because I couldn't sleep. Literally I said goodnight to my husband and goodmorning from the same kitchen table. I scrapbooked all night long! Good grief.
Quote (Not3in1 @ June 14 2008,04:44) Irene, How are you feeling today? Did you get to rest and are your levels back to normal? If you had to stay up all night – what did you do?
I remember one time when I stayed up all night because I couldn't sleep. Literally I said goodnight to my husband and goodmorning from the same kitchen table. I scrapbooked all night long! Good grief.
Hi Mandy! No my Glucose Level has not gone back to normal yet. And yes I stayed up all night long. And all day, until after lunch I just slept a couple of hours. I finally called my Doctor. I will have another Day and night like this, where it goes up and down. Since I had two Shots one in each foot, it was a lot of Medication. As long as it does not go up to 500 I should be O.K. Not sleeping at nights is nothing new to me. Getting old has something to do with it. Sometimes Georg joins me, and we talk about Scripture. I also like to meditate and like to talk to Jesus and our Heavenly Father. It really keeps me going, there is always love to have there. I also play some Games on the Computer. Time goes fast.
Love IreneQuote (Not3in1 @ June 11 2008,16:52) Quote (thehappyman @ June 11 2008,14:29) Hi Mandy:
A writer wrote this: ” During life's struggles , the rope get worn , and at the end of the rope , you've done all that you know to do, hang on for Jesus is at your end. “
Thank you, Happyman.A miracle has happened in our household! Dan called me today and told me that he had spoke with a alcoholic abuse counselor and he is going into treatment! What?! I couldn't believe my ears? After years of begging, yelling, crying, hoping and praying…….now he decides to get some help.
I'm completely convinced that it's because of prayer. Paul, your anointed prayer reached the throne room, I'm just sure of it. God bless all of those who have stood with me in prayer.
I'm hoping he will follow through and get the help that he needs. I think he knew that I was done and couldn't take any more. Whatever it was, praise God. Praise God for hope! And praise God for all of you.
Much love and thankfulness,
Mandy
Hi Mandy:Praise God for that your husband wants help. All of us have faults of one sort or another. God can completely change him. He did me. I am praying that God will give you a husband. Not another, but a husband.
God Bless
Thanks, 94.
I think Dan wants to change. I see him struggling to even know where to begin. So all of your prayers are in high demand! I still do not trust him but I love him…
Love always hopes.
Love never fails.Here's hoping it doesn't fail!
Please Father, restore my husband to me. Breathe on him and wash him with your precious holy Spirit. Cleanse him and give him a new mind. A mind that wants to follow you. A mind that wants to love his wife. A mind that is not a slave to addiction. Help us, Father. For only you can ultimately provide healing and make all things new. I love you tonight, Lord. I trust you. I believe in you. I give you my future no matter what it holds. You hold me and with that I must rest. I ask all of this because of what your Son has done for me. Praise you, Father, for sending him. Amen.
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