Nick, it is good to get one’s own walk with God in order. Then you will have authority to advise. But love is the most important. Without love you will accuse day and night in order to pull down that which God is building up. Love is the fruit of the new birth from above. If you have not love, you are a clanging symbol. The new birth is baptism in God’s Spirit. Seek to be be one with God and do things in love. A bitter spirit is seen on a man’s face. He cannot radiate the love of God, but instead loves to put people down.