As soon as people see the word “you”, their defenses go up, because it suggests judgment, and nobody likes to be judged negatively by another person. (God is our judge). So, if you are angry at someone, try the “I” statements (owning how you feel and how you view things). It would take some practice, but could have good results.
I have learned myself that most problems begin in the heart, and the heart needs to change with God’s help. “My peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you.”
I believe we came on this site about the same time is it not ?